How to overcome my gambling addiction?
- Date: 29 Jul 2023
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- Author: Dexter Kingswell
Understanding the Trap
The first thing you need to do in regard to conquering a gambling addiction is understand it for what it is - a sneaky, devious trap. You see, what starts as a harmless flutter can metamorphose into an unsightly monster with terrifying swiftness. One moment you're betting five bucks on roulette, and before you know it, you're in hock over your eyeballs, wagering everything you own, including your koi fish called Gill. Yeah, don't think I didn't notice that subtle change in Gill's ambiance when he realizes he's on the gambling block next.
The primary issue here arises because gambling is painted as a harmless recreational activity. But, let me tell you guys, it's not as simple as playing fetch with Gill. You see, the odds are always stacked in favor of the house. No matter how lucky you're feeling or how many lucky charms you carry around (trust me, I tried), you will always end up losing more than you win.
Identifying Your Gambling Triggers
Now, one of the key facets of overcoming gambling addiction is identifying your triggers. Acknowledge that there are certain situations, moods, or people that will instigate the gambling phantom within you. It could be anything - stress, boredom, loneliness, or poor Gill doing his little fishy samba in his tank. For me, it was the ever-so-delicious aroma of the freshly baked muffins Evangeline would make every Sunday morning. The delightful whiff would somehow lead my thoughts to the weekend horse races. Strange, right?
Identify your trigger. Investigate and introspect what pulls you toward this self-destructive path. Knowing what leads us into temptation will also help us to strategize how to limp out of it. Once you recognize these triggers, you can then actively work on strategies to avoid these situations and gradually rewire your brain. Go on a walk, engage in a new hobby, or fish-watch, if you must.
Getting Help and Support
Do you know what's better than dealing with a gambling addiction? Having someone by your side throughout this reclamation process from your own self. Your own spunky posse who can haul you from the edge of the cliff before you take a plunge again. It could be your spouse, sibling, friend, or even a professional counselor. Heck, even Gill could be your support. The point is having someone whom you can trust, who understands your struggle, and can guide you in this arduous journey.
My rock was my wife Evangeline. In those tumultuous times, I rediscovered her not just as my spouse, but my unwavering pillar of support. When addiction made me weak, she responded with understanding. When self-remorse shrouded me, she speared it with her optimism. So go ahead, folks. Seek support. It's not a sign of weakness but courage - the courage to reclaim who you truly are.
Joining a Support Group
While it helps to have an Evangeline in your life, sometimes, you just need to talk to people who have walked in your shoes, who have wrestled with the same demons. That's where support groups come in. They offer an opportunity for you to share experiences, learn coping strategies, and gain strength from others who are also battling or have overcome gambling addiction.
My decision to join a local support group was a game-changer. Hearing other's stories, their struggles, and their eventual triumph filled me with hope and confidence. Suddenly, the monster of addiction seemed less daunting. If they could do it, why not me? This communal sharing of struggle breeds a robust resolve that together, we can and will overcome.
Seeking Professional Help
Now, while support groups and personal resolve do wonders, never, and I mean never, underestimate the power of professional help. From therapists to counselors, these individuals carry years of experience and professional knowledge not only to understand your subjective experience but also to tailor a recovery plan uniquely suited for you (and no, it doesn't involve putting Gill on a roulette wheel).
Let's clear another misconception here. Seeking professional help isn't a sign of a lack. It's a sign of strength. The strength to understand that some wars are not meant to be fought alone. So don't be shy. Reach out, consult, and let these professionals guide you in your journey towards recovery.
Implementing Self-Help Techniques
While you get your professional help, remember that every little step towards self-improvement counts. It's not just about attending a session or two; it's about changing your lifestyle. Be it through physical exercise, healthy, mindful eating, meditation, or just spending more quality time with loved ones (yes, including Gill).
Accepting and dealing with the fact that you have a problem is the first step. After that, every single action you take towards rebuilding your life free from gambling addiction is a victory. Remember, the journey may be tough, but the destination is more than worth the effort!
Nurturing Patience and Perseverance
The road to overcoming gambling addiction can be rocky. I’m not going to sugarcoat it, folks, you might trip and fall sometimes. But remember, these stumbles only make the victories more rewarding. So, practice patience - with yourself and others and keep that spirit of perseverance alive.
My journey had its fair share of ups and downs, moments of self-doubt and despair. But, far more important were the moments of triumph. When I said "No" to a bet, when I chose to take Benedict for a day out instead of hitting the casino, when I chose to live for myself, Evangeline, Benedict, and of course, Gill. So hang in there heroes, the night may be darkest before the dawn, but do remember, the dawn is inevitable.
